Embracing Singlehood in Your 20’s

Being single right now does not define your future relationships. Enjoy your life and live it to the fullest, and when your time is ready, then you will be able to let your partner into your life. You and your life are blessings, so thrive at what you want to do. Get that tattoo, buy those clothes, and overspend on that dinner. It’s all up to YOU. Let’s learn about singlehood in your 20s, my personal experiences, and how to spend time alone.

Don’t get Down Seeing Relationships

That “single feeling” is not one specific type. Many people can feel single in many ways. Some feel alone, while others feel angry, and many just can’t figure out why they are the ones without. Well, I am here to tell you that being single in your 20s is actually a blessing. Once you push through, you can see the sunny side of it all.

Being single is something that is becoming “frowned upon” because lots of influencers are showing off their new relationships. Between this and the classic “your person will come” from your friends in relationships, the whole thing can become tedious to hear time and time again.

Do not get upset because you will look back and be glad to be young and free. Enjoy the moments of being single and thriving in your 20s and the journey of finding yourself. Seeing your loved ones happy is a blessing; being negative will only attract bad energy.

Friends and family only look to do and say what is best for you, and the feeling of being alone when others are not can be extremely daunting. I am here to remind you to take all those opportunities you when you are still so young and to never let anything stop you from shining.

I am surrounded by friends in relationships, and don’t get me wrong, at times, it has been hard on the Sunday blues. When everyone is enjoying movie nights with their partners or going out for dinner, I have learned to do that solo and love it just as much. My friends are the most supportive and loving people and have always found ways to integrate me into their lives, with or without their partners.

There is so much to do to discover yourself in your 20s. Take hold and have some fun in or out of a relationship. However, one big no is just falling into a relationship that has no benefits for you just because you are feeling the pressure from friends and family to “find” that person. It is simply unhealthy to fall on other people to deal with your emotions. That person could be completely different from what you want, and things can become extremely toxic quickly on both parts. Find yourself first and then begin your journey of love. There is no need to rush and be with the wrong person for you.

Embrace being single, go on that solo trip you always wanted to do, and get that tattoo. There is SO much to learn in your 20s. If you have found your person, that is great, but if you haven’t, then make the most of being you and doing what you want to do.

Don’t be so Hard on Yourself

You are not the problem. Yes, you read that right and keep re-reading it. I know you won’t believe it at first. I have been there, but after turning 21 recently and being single for two and a half years after a bad breakup, I believed for so long I was the issue.

Whether it was because it was my first love or the fact it ended abruptly, I will never know. Something switched in me that day, and I became unconfident, weary, emotional, and not who I was prior to it at all. You can blame what you like, but the only place change is going to come from is within yourself.

I learned to view relationships differently, and it did not happen overnight. Instead of thinking, “Why don’t they like me?” I began to view it as “Someone else will love me for me.” Do not let anyone knock your confidence down and become someone you know you aren’t meant to be. You are only 20 it is just the start of your journey.

Stop Worrying and Follow Your Path

Now, the stigma that surrounds being in a relationship is extremely toxic and can be extremely hard to deal with.

Particularly with internet creators, trends, and viral videos, it can seem like everyone is pressuring you to find your person. But how can a stranger on the internet know when YOU will find YOUR soul mate? Everything falls into place when the time is right, but first, enjoy your life. Just because you are single in your 20s does not make you any less worthy of being loved.

So, stop worrying about being in a relationship and look at your surroundings now. What do you have to look forward to that in 10 years you can say you accomplished by yourself? Singlehood in your 20s can unlock so many new paths, and you can look back and say, “Yes, I did that.”

Personally, I believe we rely on other people too much for a sense of feeling, and this is not healthy. You are your own person. You need to find the time to put aside and feel that self-love and enjoy being you. It is extremely hard to love someone before you love yourself fully and find that peace within yourself.

Okay, so we have covered the ways to avoid feeling pressured and how not to feel alone with friends in relationships. Now, what do you do in your free time, and how do you enjoy doing new or old activities alone?

There is no harm in just “bed rotting” for a day or two. However, there are hundreds of things you can do solo without being too extreme.

Go out for that hike (Remember safety equipment, GPS, water, etc)

Go grab a coffee at that new shop that just opened!

Meet up with family you haven’t seen in ages

Open up that book and sit somewhere new (Inside or outside the house)

Book yourself that spa treatment you have been deciding on

Get baking

Book that holiday for next year

Watch that movie

There are hundreds of things I could name that you can do solo and still enjoy life. Everyone is different, and not everything I suggest could be up your street. Just get out there. You never know who you might meet. Being in a single phase in your 20s can be a lesson, and with so much to do, why let your “relationship worries” stop you?

As you are just becoming an adult, a range of new paths will open up–and don’t be scared! Welcome it with open arms to enjoy these incredible opportunities.

Just Take a Deep Breath and Enjoy

According to Statista, in 2022, over 28.9 million people over the age of 16 were single in England and Wales. Don’t worry too much; there are still plenty of people like us waiting for their chance to shine with someone. Personally, I am not waiting for someone. I choose to move on with my life and let people come and go.

You can’t expect to sit around and hope that someone will appear. Keep being you, and don’t stop your life to find a relationship. It’s not that important. As Dory said in Finding Nemo, “Just keep swimming,” and that’s exactly what you should do, too. Do not lose hope or compare yourself everyone’s journey is different. Singlehood in your 20s should be a fun time and not a stressful one. Keep calm and be you.